“I’m not looking for a relationship at the moment”
The academic approach! Explain you’re too busy
focusing on your career (or other responsibilities) at the moment to even
consider going out with anyone. The only problem with this excuse is that they
may take this as a pretty big insult; inferring that you would rather spend
time with a mound of scholarly books than them, but hey ho. Then again, they
could also find your dedication to work attractive and fall for you even
harder...ah well; at least you turned them down respectfully!
“I’m already seeing someone”
I’m not saying you should lie to people. Okay, so maybe
I am, but that’s only because it has worked in the past and I’m only trying to
be helpful! This applies if you don’t know the person very well – if you see
them on a regular basis and they are familiar with you, then chances are they
will catch you out. To make it seem more truthful, think back to someone in
your past you dated briefly and use their name (or a similar abbreviation) to
make it more viable (and to ease your conscience a little about lying!)
“I wouldn’t want to jeopardise our friendship”
A pretty sensitive one here – if a good friend of
yours has come clean to you then you clearly cannot just snicker in their face and
shrug them off – however you choose to act will inevitably affect your
relationship with that person. The right thing to do is be honest, obviously,
but to couch the rejection as best you can. It’s key that you make it clear to
them it won’t be awkward from now on, and that your friendship is important to
you so nothing will change.
By
Hannah Montgomery
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